Bridesmaids Dresses – A Lesson In Compromise?

I have been to maybe a handful of weddings in my life. But, next year will be the first time I’ll be part of a friend’s bridal party.

I am certainly excited at the prospect of helping to make it the best day possible for her (you have no idea how many times I’ve asked her when we’re going to start looking at wedding dresses). It seems to have been built into my DNA to love planning events, crafting, shopping and cake eating, so I think I’ve got all the bases covered if she needs me.

One discussion we have had a couple times though, is the all important question of what the bridesmaids will wear. I don’t know what is traditionally done. Back in the day I think the bride would buy the dresses for her wedding party. When it was her money, she had all the say. If you came out looking like a cupcake that went home with cheesecake after a drunken night out, well, you just had to live with that.

Remember the horrific closet from 27 Dresses?

I get that the bride doesn’t want to be upstaged. I don’t think that any good bridesmaid would want to do that to their friend. I know I would never want to detract from the happy couple. Yet, in today’s modern society, where many bridesmaids are now having to foot the bill for their own dress, how much say do they have when it comes to what they wear?

I personally plan to be a good maid of honour and intend to be as polite as possible when giving my opinion on whatever we are trying on. The great thing is my friend and I have relatively similar taste in clothes, so the two of us will likely see eye to eye for the most part. However, it will be interesting to shop with the rest of the bridal party and find out how well everyone else does in this situation.

I expect that clashing styles, personalities and body types can mean disastrous shopping trips (fans of Say Yes to the Dress: Bridesmaids will know how out of hand these excusions can get). My fingers are crossed for the best. And, I hope that I walk out of this with a dress that’s fairly affordable and that I’ll actually want to wear again. Those are the only two things I’ve asked for and I think my friend has agreed to that. Hallelujah!

Model, Molly Sims‘ Mismatched Bridal Party Dresses Doesn’t everyone look fabulous and happy?

Do you have any bridal party horror stories? Dress nightmares? What did you make your bridesmaids wear at your wedding? I’d love for you to share in the comments section below.

Photo Sources: Scribbles, Scripts & Such & Molly Sims

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Movie Monday Recommendation!

Well, I was not planning on writing another post so soon, but after attending a prescreening of Safety Not Guaranteed tonight I felt that I had to recommend it to everyone.

I thoroughly enjoyed this movie about a writer and two interns answering a classified ad about a man seeking a companion for time travel. Produced by the makers of Little Miss Sunshine (a favourite of mine), I went in with high hopes and it did not disappoint.

The script was superb, funny and heartfelt the whole way through (hence the 2012 Waldo Salt Screenwriting Award at the Sundance Film Festival). The film was cast perfectly, in my opinion. Aubrey Plaza (Parks and Recreation) is captivating in her deadpan humour type way, Mark Duplass (Humpday and The League) as the time traveler makes me believe without question that it’s a possibility rather than an impossibility, Jake M. Johnson (New Girl) as the writer seeking his past love is a great juxtaposition to the overly mature interns he heads out on the road with, and Karan Soni (a relative newcomer) plays nerdy virgin with a crush very well.

My only complaint? I wish the movie didn’t end. It left me with questions, left me wanting to know more of the story, about what happens after. There won’t be a sequel to provide me with that closure and I can live with that. I would happily watch this film again in a heartbeat, fully aware of the outcome.

It is currently playing in limited release in larger cities, so if you’ve yet to see it at a theatre near you, watch for it and be sure to check it out the second you get a chance!

If you’ve been lucky enough to have seen it already, let us know what you thought about it.  If you still need to go, come back and expound upon it after! I’d love to hear what you have to say.

Dress Etiquette – Where, Oh Where Has It Gone?

A really good friend of mine is getting married. In the midst of the initial stages of planning, she has decided she wants it to be special and classy. Most people in this situation are aiming for the same. My friend’s thinking? “If anyone comes to my wedding wearing sweats, shorts or jeans, I might actually kick them out.” I don’t blame her. Unless it is specified on the invitation that it’s allowed, no one wants pictures of their distant relative wearing tight bike shorts to be forever saved on film or in the minds of their guests. As such, conversation has, on occasion, turned to the current state of affairs when it comes to dress etiquette at weddings, parties and the office.

We live in Edmonton, a city in the middle of the northern Canadian prairies. Our history is that of the farmer and oil, so maybe you can understand why casual is common here. But, speaking with my parents, there was a certain dress code back when they were young entrepreneurs. Going to a restaurant in the downtown core? You wore your best outfit. Going to the theatre or the symphony? It’s not an everyday occurance, so put on your dress and heels or a suit and tie and paint the town!

It seems that those days have come and gone. People feel comfortable ambling into work in their gym clothes or attending a business function in their casual Friday wear or seeing a play donned in a hoodie or going to a family member’s wedding dressed in jeans and socks with sandals.

Visible butt cheeks and too tight shorts? Don’t.

What ever happened to dress etiquette?

I’m not saying that everyone is this way. There are many people in my city that take their style up a notch every day. Thank you for that. Appearance isn’t always  everything, but in situations like these, dressing for the occasion is a form of respect. Taking pride in your appearance boosts your esteem, too. Who has ever walked out of the house thinking ‘I look amazing in this ratty t-shirt, baggy sweatpants and my pair of Crocs? I’m going guess and say no one. But think about any time you have put in just an iota of effort in the way you look and what you wear. When you look good, you can feel the confidence build up in yourself. People you work with, your friends and family, even strangers on the street will notice.

So, next time you step into your closet, think about how you want to be perceived by others. Remember, be it your regular work day or a job interview or one of your best friend’s weddings, adhering to some sort of dress etiquette is for everyones’ benefit.

You look splendid! No doubts about inviting this couple.

What’s your opinion on the subject of dress etiquette? Do you think it’s necessary? Or do you wish you could wear Lululemon clothes everywhere?

Photo Sources: Fashiondonts.com and A Day to Remember Wedding Consultants & Coordinators

Marrying the Themes of This Blog

Film, meet Fashion. Fashion, meet Food. Food, meet Photography. Photography, meet Film. Let’s all get married. I now pronounce you Marie Antoinette, directed by Sofia Coppola.

For my first post , I was looking for a way to start off with something that encompassed all four of my main interests. The 2006 film, Marie Antoinette, seems able to fulfill all the aspects I am looking for.

I remember this movie quite distinctly. When it was released in theatres, my friends and I went as a group. As we exited after the show, my friends were initially quiet, eventually stating they found it slow and a little hard to sit through. Overall, it wasn’t what they expected.

While I agreed it was a slow story, I didn’t mind. I appreciated that the film’s slowness probably mirrored what life was like for a privileged aristocrat. Not only did they live a life that was pretty repetitive, but the boredom that Marie Antoinette felt in her marriage comes through in Sofia Coppola’s purposeful directorial style. My appreciation of the overall story was further enhanced by the costumes and imagery throughout the movie. The clothes were detailed and beautiful, and, in my mind, immediately worthy of an Oscar, or at least an Academy Award nomination for costume design. Coppola made sure that the film had such a sumptuous feel to it. Filming the movie at the Palace of Versailles, creating a set filled with feasts for the eyes as well as the stomach (food plays a big role in many scenes) and ensuring extras were decked out in regalia as fine as those worn by the main cast made it special.

In addition, the music used as the soundtrack brought a modern element to the movie. The fact that it was a period piece did not deter Coppola from including new wave and post-punk artists to help bring her vision to an audience. That’s what made the whole production seem fresh and new.

Stills and Photos from Marie Antoinette:

As per the quote, “let them have cake,” often attributed to Marie Antoinette, I leave you with a recipe:

I hope that you enjoyed this post. Please remember, feedback is always welcome!